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Depriving Men of Constitutional Rights

by Phyllis Schlafly

Family courts routinely deprive men of their fundamental right to parent their own children by charging them with a wide variety of trivial offenses. Family courts generally uphold feminist demands to kick a man out of his own home, and take control of their children and his money, based on a woman’s unsubstantiated allegations. A major weapon in this ongoing battle between men and women who don’t get along is the Violence Against Women Act. This law was passed in 1994 as a payoff to the radical feminists for helping to elect Bill Clinton President in 1992.

The Violence Against Women Act shows the hypocrisy of noisy feminist demands that we kowtow to their ideology of gender neutrality, to their claim that there is no difference between male and female, and to their opposition to stereotyping and gender profiling. There is nothing sex neutral about this law. It is based on the proposition that there are, indeed, innate gender differences: men are naturally batterers and women are naturally victims. This law is not designed to eliminate or punish violence, but to punish only alleged violence against women. Most of the shelters financed by the Violence Against Women Act do not accept men as victims.

This law has been known from the getgo as “feminist pork” because it puts $1 Billion a year of U.S. taxpayers’ money into the hands of the radical feminists. They have set up shop in domestic violence shelters where they promote divorce, marriage breakup, hatred of men, and false accusations, while rejecting marriage counseling, reconciliation, drug-abuse treatment, and evidence of mutual-partner abuse. There is no accountability for the taxpayers’ money spent in these shelters. This law provides the woman with free legal counsel to pursue her allegations, but not the man to defend himself. He is on his own to find and pay a lawyer.

Contributing Editor, Phyllis Schlafly, is the Founder and President of Eagle Forum. Used with permission.



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  • http://aol.com Lane

    I am living this nightmare on a daily basis! Every law they could use , has been leveled against me in order for the mother to obtain sole custody of our children This has been going on for nearly four years! I have not seen or spoken to our sons in that time span! I continue to fight! Its not over! Private attorneys are setting fathers up that are factually innocent and using the system as a “Pay to Play” venue for Justice. Justice is coming! I have a great story!

  • http://www.familycourtmafia@blogspot.com Sean Delevan

    I have lived this nightmare for over 10 years. I have dealt with false allegations, false arrests, and a family court system that had countless professionals that were willing to lie, manipulate, and ensure that a mentally ill woman, and her sexually deviant partner would be sheltered from any scrutiny or accountability for alienating my children and causing my relationship to be terminated.

    I would be forced for years to pay to see my own children, face endless sanctions and allegations in family court by my ex and her spouse, while the courts ignored the voice of my children as well as the evidence that showed that my children were in imminent danger.

    With the help of the law guardian, this conduct still goes on today.

    Sean Delevan

  • Gunner Retired

    Yeah, I know this tale.

    It’s been my life since I retired after a career in the US Navy. 20 years of my life I gave to my country, then my country pandered to my ex-wifes lies and now I have nothing.

    My children no longer have a college, and many family heirlooms I was forced to sell to pay for lawyers to defend me from 5 rounds of False Accusations.

    Further, living under the stress of being an accused child molester (even though I was investigated by 5 agencies in 2 states and nothing was found to substantiate the accusations, even though I proved myself innocent, even though the child recanted, etc) now my health is shot. I am little more than a hollow shell of the man I was a scant ten years ago.

    All to satisfy the states lust for mine and my childrens money.

    Gunner Retired
    Falsely Accused Father and Disenfranchised Dad

  • PaulSr

    This is the law that destroyed the American family. It targets men. It does not stop violence, instead it encourages it. It also targets our soldiers, even using their service records against them as supporting evidence for false-accusations. This law needs to be repealed.

  • John

    Excellently written and very much true. Having gone through family court, and seen what happens, it’s hard not to come off as conspiratorial when describing what happens. I had allegations brought up on me, and when I asked if any evidence would be nessassary, I was told, her testimony is all the evidence needed. Even during depositions, there was absolutely no consistency with that testimony. When asked when the allegations occured, my ex couldnt even remember if it was summer or winter. But that was enough to warrant termination of my custodial rights as a parent. Mrs. Shlafly is very right that this is a form of gamesmanship, and it’s devastating to be on the receiving end of it. Vawa and other similar statutes in family court levy criminal sanctions while circumventing the constitutional protections of criminal law in an effort to remove such protections. And it’s easy to understand that family court, where one is fighting for ones own children, property, retirement, income, and general way of life, that such protections would be most important.

  • Paulsr

    My appreciation goes out to the author of this article, Phyllis Schlafly. She is apparently a smart person that can see today’s social problems for what they are. In this case, discrimination against men in Family Court. I offer my support to her in any way she could use it. Thank you Phyllis

  • Miranda

    My ex husband used every manipulative, fear-inducing, terrorizing tactic he could think of to control me during the seven years that we were married. He was arrested several times for domestic violence. Everytime he stood in front of a judge he managed to look like the victim who was being used by the system. He has effectively managed to use to court system to further attempt to victimize me through custody issues with the children. Not saying you guys are lying, but you all sound like my ex, and it’s a lot more common for such allegations to be true than false.

  • akrho1977

    I have been fighting for my son. All I have come up with so far is that Family Law attorneys are not there to help non-custodian fathers like me. After 4 representations, I gave and took it upon myself. I have gotten more time but it is not over.

    How come I read things about how the “System” is pushing fathers away from their children and taking money BU no mention of Title IV-D? My previous atty would not even mention it in her office.

    My son is a “cash-cow” for the state and the mother.

  • Lee

    Things like this continue to happen to men because we do not protest enough and are not loud enough. Most thiing come into after there is a great and constant upheaval by the people that are victomized.. That is how this law was put into play. Civil injust is always changed by protest. ie..slavery, civil rights, the right to vote etc… We need to get organized and protest loudly throughout the year or years

  • Walter

    No wonder Bar Associations to at least some states lend counsel to sworn-in officers of courts and honorable guardians for/to justice that they (we) “merely ignore (y)our oaths and obligations.”

    Already, we be here the reply by some that “It’s complicated.”

    You know what? We certainly should find it quite complicated (if not completely unintelligible) to understand or appreciate irrational rationalization(s) for extortion, racketeering and embezzlement(s) (of public trusts).

  • Jason LaCroix

    It can be seen, if one looks at the behavior of society as a whole, that our mother’s have failed miserably at raising consistently quality citizen’s. The women reading this will want a piece of me, but hear me out.

    The majority of all children live with their mother’s and visit their father’s(if they see him at all). Some father’s run, but many of us are pushed away. Even if we stay, fight and prevail at being allowed to be the parents we chose to become, we are alloted nothing more than distant cousin time with the children and have no ability to instill true family values to our children. Our mother’s have near complete control of the children and therefore should logically be credited or blamed for those children’s behaviors when they become adults.

    Read the papers, watch the news and observe your fellow man on a day to day basis, and tell me honestly if the majority of that witnessed is behavior that you would have seen from your parents? Our police are busier than ever, our prisons are bursting, our courts are overloaded and then you have the people who are not tied into that system and the behavior they exhibit. Society has been raised primarily by our mother’s. So if the mother’s are doing so much right, why do these other dynamics present such challenges?

    Look at the behavioral habits of business. Greed, selfishness, profits above all else, etc.. These are traits of individuals who have no concern for the larger picture of society, only concern for themselves. The biggests scandals of the day from political, religous, wall street, etc., are all committed by a society that has grown up with little fatherly influence. Again, many fathers run but many more are pushed away from their ability to be parents to their own children. I gave up, because I just was not wanted for anything more than my ability to provide money. Just as millions of fathers are treated by a out of balance family law system.

    The children are used as a method of income by their mothers in so many instances it has become the default norm. Today’s mother’s know that if separation happens they will get the children, they will get support dollars and they will use this as a way to impose punishment on their once trusted partners. The population is exhibiting great abstinence in joining in traitional family structures. Family’s are so twisted and manipulated with people who have no biological concern for the children that are being victimized in the process. Most all children grow up in these twisted family dynamics that the problem has no hope of improving the way things are now.

    Shared parenting legislation needs to be the default norm. That will remove the benefit of tearing families apart and will help people think of the other people being affected by their desires. Equal responsibilities, equal time spent with each parent for the children, equal financial obligations to each parent. Equality. As hard as that may be to believe, equality does apply to all. Men and women. Women and men. Equality.

  • Mister-M

    Welcome to the club everyone! The question becomes, how in the hell do we reverse what has been a landslide of erosion of our parental rights due to this disgrace?

    My latest is trying to defend against my website being used as leverage to change the current 50/50 custody (in place for the last 3 years).

    Shutting Down ThePsychoExWife.Com

    Mister-M

  • Wade

    I too am in the military. I also happen to be a listened clinical social worker, I’m an officer. I hold the highest position at my base one can hold for the advocacy and treatment of all family related problems. I have specialized training in prevention and treatment of domestic violence, treatment of child and all adult mental health disorders, and up until a few weeks after I asked my ex wife for a divorce had a completely clean legal record.
    My ex wife- well she suffers from the most severe borderline personality disorder I have seen in 18 years of practice, she has tried to kill herself and me at least 5 times (hospitalized twice), she regularly engages in parental alienation, and the list goes on.
    Yep, 9 false allegations, 5 serious law enforcement investigations, criminal lawyers, 6 criminal court appearances, being removed from my job, having my house, children, and entire paycheck handed to her, and the divorce from Hades…. I am left broke and trying to put the pieces of my career and life back together, with only limited visitation of my kids.
    It does not matter that I was investigated and cleared of all charges, I’ll never get the missed birthday’s and holidays/ special occasions with my kids back, I’ll never get the expenses incurred over this divorce back totaling in close to 100 thousand dollars, I’ll never get my reputation completely back either. But men here are where we differ… I want this law to remain in place. To me the feminists have every right to ask for equal rights for their cause.
    Instead I want tougher laws for women who make these false allegations in court. I want the district attorney’s office to enforce the laws that are already in place to protect me, a private citizen who pays taxes and votes in local, state, and federal elections. Is it not a crime to lie to police/judges. Heck in my state it’s a felony to lie to a judge and even though I was able to provide documented legal proof that my ex lied to police and judges to get the upper hand in our divorce the police and district attorney’s offices response was, “We don’t get involved in civil matters. Well hell, that was obvious by the way you arrested me, thru me in jail, took my kids away, and gave my ex wife virtually every asset I’ve worked for over 18 years for!
    I have no clue how to fix this. I went to every law enforcement, social service, and religious agency I could think of. Most places wouldn’t even look at me once I mentioned the ongoing legal issues; at that point I was the perpetrator trying to cause trouble for the innocent woman, who obviously was abused by me for years before she got the courage to file the restraining order.
    I don’t know how to fix the mess we are in men. When a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with my qualifications does not stand a chance of getting a fair shake in our legal system things have obviously gotten out of hand. The laws are merely a symptom of the bigger problems we are facing. I think the solution would be to hold accountable those in government who perpetrate the system that has wronged us. But that will be our son’s problem right?

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  • Mister-M

    Wade, I’m not shocked by your story, I see easier and I see tougher stories all the time.

    And if I have any influence over my children at all, it won’t be their problem. Unless something changes and changes dramatically, I will give them the cold hard truths about the risks associated with getting married, and worse, having children (married or otherwise).

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